What is bDSM?
Let’s say you're looking for something new in the bedroom or you're just looking to label the specifics of the dynamic and roles you find yourself in when you engage in sex. You've seen the movies, you've read the books you know about BDSM and you're ready to try some things and get kinky. The experts have made sure that there is plenty of information for everyone to study to make sure no one is left out and everyone is enjoying themselves and taking necessary precautions before getting kinky so let's delve into the ongoing conversation surrounding BDSM.
What Is BDSM?
It’s important to have an ongoing conversation surrounding consent with your partner(s) when indulging in the highs and lows of BDSM, but what is BDSM? Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism are defined as sexual activities involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control, and the infliction of pain. (That’s textbook definition baby!) BDSM is an umbrella term that refers to a spectrum of sexual behaviors and preferences that can be divvied into groups. what most couples are saying is regular “vanilla sex” is actually very kinky
indeed but they just are not calling it that. There are benefits to engaging in such acts. You open the door to discuss clear boundaries and consent and can discuss interests and limits beforehand, by doing so you create a sense of closeness with your partner and open up the door for new levels of trust and understanding. when your partner finds the courage to express their limits and boundaries will encourage them to always communicate freely with you.
How Common Are BDSM Fantasies?
Studies published in Sex and Psychology suggest that BDSM fantasies are probably more common than previously thought. Nearly 70 percent of the women and nearly 60 percent of the men said they had fantasized about dominating someone sexually.the U.S. hasn’t exactly done a stellar job at encouraging open and honest conversations about sex. Coming out about atypical sexual interests might get you labeled a deviant. but with growing communities online and more sex clubs being opened around the united states it is becoming easier to explore and understand the ins and outs ( accidental pun) of BDSM lifestyles and how they impact people in sexual and non sexual ways on a daily basis. Some of the most common fantasies according to Men's health include:
1. Taking on dominant or submissive roles
2. Impact play,
3. Taboo fetishes (such as bodily fluids),
4. Voyeurism
5. Exhibitionism
6. Ageplay
7. Genderplay,
8. Novelty, adventure, and variety.
AfterCare
Aftercare is a step in any BDSM session that is important and is a good time to become grounded in yourself again and slowly return to reality. In any BDSM relationship, it is essential. After play time it is important to address physical; and mental aspects of play that just took place and meet your partner's emotional needs. Sometimes it's hard to come back to your senses after an intense session so be patient and take your time with this as it is an essential aspect of completing the session.