Safe Words . . .?
Whoa, whoa, whoa there Cruella DeVil before you start slaying puppies and taking littles for ransom. There are some basic consent things you have to understand that are going to be vital as you begin to explore the many exhilarating aspects of BDSM.
What’s The Safe Word?
Consent is so sexy, it makes everyone feel safe and in general, is a good legal idea, but sometimes the lines between what is okay and what pushing the limit becomes blurred. Safe words are used amongst BDSM participants when they have reached their threshold and need a particular activity to end. Even though it is primarily used by the BDSM community it is beneficial for all couples to have a safe word. This pre-agreed term that is carefully agreed on by both parties is the red light it is not to be taken lightly and is a hard stop.
Safety First
The safe word is in place to keep everyone involved in playtime safe. to have phenomenal mind-blowing sex you have to understand that everyone has a limit and screams or cries aren't necessarily theirs. Many of us tend to keep quiet or don't make it known immediately that we are limiting the safe word so that you can hit the brakes as soon as you need to. It is no one's intention. to hurt someone unintentionally but because some sex involves heavy impact play or even quick movements that could potentially be uncomfortable it is important to have that safe word in the back pocket. It builds trust and honestly, sometimes you just need a break it’s a hard word being a sex deity.
Creating A Safe Word
The safe word shouldn't have anything to do with sex and should be something that you wouldn't typically say. The great thing about a safe word is that it can be used inside and outside the bedroom to protect and solve problems. It is not to be abused in a toxic dynamic but rather to express the feeling of being too overwhelmed with what is happening at the moment. Using a safe word isn’t about avoidance. It’s about limits and boundaries. It’s about timing and delivery. The safe word should be 1-2 words and it can even be a silly word. Have fun with it as long as all parties agree and understand its vitality. Safe Words are sometimes fruits like “Pomegranate!” or they can be something as simple a color; “Red!” The safe word for some is a number or something more canon. Be safe and have fun by having a safe word ready.